Inconsistency

Inconsistency is the bane of DD relationships, and has been a constant struggle for me in particular. Inconsistent leadership leaves your partner feeling lost and insecure, like a ship cast adrift on the open sea.

With this in mind, I thought it would be helpful for me to jot down my thoughts, and record the efforts I'm making to stay engaged, and provide the leadership our relationship needs and deserves.

This week I have begun sitting down with my wife when I get home each evening to discuss her day and find out if there are any issues I need to address. It's a small step, but one that I hope to build on in the coming weeks and months.

DD works in our relationship, but only when I work at DD.
Consistency is key.

Introduction

I know, I know, just what everyone needs, another blog. So, what sets this one apart and warrants your precious time and attention? Well dear readers, that will be for you to decide.

My goals are far from ambitious.

My wife and I have been trying to live a DD relationship now for the past three years. I say trying because my participation has been anything but consistent. Despite the fact that consistency is one of the essential requirements of a DD relationship.

My wife introduced the lifestyle to our life. It satisfied a missing component in her life, and brought stability and structure to the chaos of a life marked by two separate mental disorders.

The problem, as I stated earlier, is that I find it difficult to act consistently, and slip too frequently into a state of complacency. Disengaging and withdrawing into my own world.

So my modest goal is to use this blog as a way to stay focused. To explore my thoughts and feelings, and to discuss my efforts as the Head of our Household.

I hope you find it interesting enough to check in from time to time. And please, don't be shy about offering your thoughts.